Last night's im with Mr. Law ended odd in that I sent him something & he didn't reply. I wanted to sign off & figured he'd either become occupied with something else or didn't see it, so I logged out. I got a text this morning around 9 am saying "hi". I saw it at 10ish & sent back "Hi to you too". He sent another one a little after 11 telling me his computer froze. I sent it back saying that's too bad. He sends it back immediately asking if he can call me. I said fine.
He called while I was on break at work & his first question to me is "So why did your last relationship end?" I said I didn't feel like talking about it and fired the same question back at him. Turns out his last major relationship was almost 4 years ago & she was married at the time they met & started dating. She wanted out & used him to do so. They lived together for a couple of years & she grew tired of him not making the money she wanted to be supported with so she left him to pursue older, richer men. Ummm.....you dated a married woman idiot.
Similar followed for the next 3 years & he is bitter towards NY women in general. I said that's too bad. I wanted to change the topic and asked "So why did you text me all of that earlier?" He responds with "That's a loaded question." I asked him how was it loaded. He replied with "well, I can tell you the truth, I can tell you what you want to hear, or I can tell you what I think you want to hear". I said I wanted the truth. He said the truth was his computer froze and he didn't want me to think that he was ignoring me or that his wife came in the room. I said that I never even considerd things like that because he said he isn't married so why would I concoct a wife that he claims does not exist? I asked about the statements he "thinks" I'd want to hear. He said "Oh because I missed hearing your voice and wanted to talk to you". I said that a response like that would be psychotic. He laughed and asked why would I say that. I pointed out how we have yet to even meet in person and it would take a few months of dating for me to accept some odd comment such as that one.
We chatted more & I had to get going because I had class.
He called me while I was at the Farm and I picked up. Big mistake. I said "Hello?" He said "Hey you". Whoah! I already don't have a name & I'm a "hey you" person on the list. I don't like this. His first question was "I hear the internet has caused a huge problem with plagiarism at the college level. How do you deal with this?" An odd question, but I answered. He then said "Okay, but what if they take info from various sites & you can't find one specific source that they downloaded a paper from?" I answered that as well. "But what if they've just read the piece a lot and have discussed it with other teachers, say from high school, and they don't even realize that their idea isn't really their's? Isn't that plagiarism? And how do you deal with that?" I shot back with "Counselor, I feel like I am a witness being badgered" (he laughs) and I continued "Do you talk like this to everyone?" He said "No". I said "Then you just speak to me this way?" "No." I laughed and said "then what is it?" He became a bit aggitated and said "I thought you wanted someone who connected with you on levels and I am trying to show you that I am keeping up with your profession and that I understand what it is you go through". Oh if he only knew what I really go through. I replied with "Well, that's very nice but I don't define myself wholly by my job. I want to connect with someone on levels of conversation, movies, values, food, music........ have you ever had a song stuck in you rhead and youtried everything to get rid of it but it isn't working?" So he asks "What is the group?" Now, I would have asked 'what song' but not Mr. Law. I told him Nickelback. He said "Who? I'm old remember? I don't know the names of these new little groups." "Hello? They are not a new little group. They have been around a couple of years, are all in the later 30s and opened for Bon Jovi this past summer. As well they just had concerts in the city in November." He was silent and said "Oh yeah?"
At this point I said I had to go but I could call him for my ride to my next stop if that was okay. He said fine.
I like talking on the phone while I drive because it limits the time I have to talk to someone. especially when I am not sure I want to, or should be talking to, that person. So when I called back he answered "hey you". I just said "Hi. Mr. Law. It's Grotter". I asked him if he had bothered to look up Nickelback and he hadn't. I pointed out that if was taking an interest in such a younger woman he would have done so already.
Moving on I asked him if he was still going to Fla. this weekend. He said that his friend backed out & he wished he had a girlfriend to go with instead. I said I wish I was just going to Fla....with someone or alone.....wouldn't matter to me. It's at this point he says "So come with me." Kidding around I replied "Okay". He was shocked & silent. I giggled and said "Lighten up. I was kidding!" He said "We could get separate rooms if you didn't want to share." I said "I can't go away with you. I haven't even met you yet". "No really, we can get separate rooms That's okay with me". BELLS AND WHISTLES GOING OFF BIG TIME
"Ummm......no. Sorry but I have this policy that I don't go away with men I don't know. Call me crazy but it's worked for me so far."
So I told him about Cowboy because he asked again & then he said "Describe him to me. Age, height, hair & eye color, education, job" I said "Why?" He said it would give him insight into the kind of guy I go for. Well, I pointed out that it didn't work and I may not want that type again. I also pointed out that he is too hung up on the education thing and just because you have a degree doesn't make you a genius in the dating world.
I won't go on much longer. But I will say that this guy is already trying too hard in that he tihnks he knows women and yet is applying all of the wrong issue sto me. He asks me a question, interrupts my response and tells me how I am wrong about something specific to myself. I am meeting himfor coffee.....who knows why....but I have this feeling that I will be walking out leaving him there. Just a hunch.
